To guarantee the success of everyone on earth, God established very many principles. Application of one or few of these principles will make you to achieve any goal you set for yourself.
One of these principles is the one I would call, the Golden Principle. It is golden because it is fundamental to your success, happiness, fulfilment, and sound health.
Though fundamental, the Golden Principle is the most neglected principle. And that is why we have unhealthy competition, enmity, frustration, disappointment, and man’s inhumanity to man; and that is why we are unsuccessful in life.
I travelled from Abuja to Ibadan sometime ago. At Utako Motor Park, Abuja, we waited for the passengers to come in and take up seats. While we were waiting, a slim, fair complexion woman (one of the passengers in the mini bus) was busy quarrelling with a small girl hawking food around. The fact of the matter was that the woman ate out of the food the girl was selling and then went straight to take her seat in the vehicle. When the girl asked her to pay the money and take the portion of the food she ate out of, the quarrel began: “E, e, e, I know people like you. If I don’t pay for this food today, you will never allow me to sleep in the night today. Yes, I know. I am a deliverance minister. I know what people like you can do. Now, take your money and give me the food.” That was how the matter ended.
Now, the focus here is not whether the woman is a deliverance minister, or whether the girl is a witch. The focus here is the failure on the part of the woman to apply the golden principle. If she had applied the golden principle, there would not have been any need to enter into tango with the girl in the first place.
What the woman would have done was to put herself in the position of the girl and say: “If I were this little girl and someone ate out of the portions of food I am selling, and the person refuses to buy that portion of food, would I be happy?” This is what the Golden Principle is all about: Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. If you cannot tolerate an act, why must you do the same act to another person?
That is the cause of the troubles we are having in the world today. If everyone would apply the golden principle in everything one does, or in relation to other, the world would be a better and peaceful place to live in, and every person would enjoy a richer, happier, and more fulfilling life.
Give No Room to Sentiments
When some people are bitten and battered, they tend to transfer their frustrations on others. Psychologists call this behaviour “transfer of aggression.” People, who behave that way, don’t normally enjoy peace, happiness, and prosperity. The same measure you mete out to people is the measure they will mete out to you. That is the golden principle at work.
Learn to control your emotion. When you are despondent or feeling bad, try to remain calm. Don’t act, take crucial decision, or speak when you are sad, because the tendency to err is very high. “Be angry, but sin not.”
Face Issues Squarely
Many problems and troubles we have in the society today are caused by our inability to face issues squarely. Instead of facing issues squarely, we digress. Digression means talking about something that is not connected with the main point of what you are saying. Many of us are fond of hiding under the cover of religion, politics, denomination, ethnicity, etc to perpetrate atrocity. You don’t solve societal problem by doing acts which may constitute more problems to the society.
If you want to be a problem solver, learn to face issues squarely. You solve problems by facing issues squarely.
It is an act of frustration and cowardice to abandon the main problem you set out to solve and raise issues that have nothing to do with the main problem.
The world is looking for men and women, boys and girls who are courageous enough to identify and face societal problems squarely.
Do What You Think is Right
Two “wrongs”, they say, cannot make a “right.” The “wrong” committed by a person should not lead you to commission of another “wrong.” You owe yourself a duty to be good all the time. One good turn deserves another. If you want to be rewarded with good, do that which is good. That is what the golden principle is all about. It is a principle of nature. You cannot change it. No person can change it.
I notice that many people are compelled to do what is right not because of fear of God, but because of nemesis or because of what the person they offended will do to them.
The reason many people are feeling insecure and fearful is that they don’t fear God. If you fear God, you will do what is right. And in doing what is right, you will not be afraid of anything or what any person can do to you. Clear conscience fears no accusation.
If you fear God and you do the right thing, you become indomitable, because the Creator of the heaven and earth, the God of vengeance will always be on your side to protect you and fight on your behalf.
Think Before You Do
In anything you want to do, try to slow down in your speech and action. Think before you speak and act. Try to weigh the consequences of your actions and utterances. You need to ask yourself: “Does God frowns on my actions and utterances? Will this person be hurt or offended by my actions and utterances?”
Instead of thinking before acting, what most of us do is the opposite. We act first before thinking. And in the course of thinking, we realise that we have hurt somebody. And even when our conscience pricks us, we still insist that what we did was right.
If you think before you do, you will learn to do the right thing and when you do the right thing, you invoke the Golden Principle to work for your good.
Fix the Fault Properly
Here lies the solution to broken relationship, broken marriage, and unfaithfulness. The solution is: Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. It is the golden principle enacted by God. And Jesus emphasized this about 2 000 years ago. The principle has not changed and it cannot change. It is because it cannot change that we call it “principle.”
This golden principle is also the panacea to all the problems of mankind.
You can enjoy marital bliss, excellent human relationship, respect, and dignity if you apply the golden principle: Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.
It is not possible to be rewarded with good when you are dishing out evil to others. No way! The golden principle cannot be reversed. It is either you comply with it and be richly rewarded or you violate it and be punished.
Fix the fault properly by applying the golden principle: Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.
This principle is fundamental to your success, prosperity, happiness, and fulfilment.
Accept the Blame
One essential ingredient of the application of the golden principle is the acceptance of blame. When you know or your conscience pricks you that what you have done is wrong, or is something you yourself cannot tolerate, you need to accept the blame.
The reason we are having too many cases coming to court daily is because none of the parties to the cases are willing to accept their own share of blame. Both parties want to claim that they are right, and wouldn’t mind spending their time and fortune seeking court’s declaration that they are the ones that are right.
Realising the folly and the futility therein, Nigerian courts always advise parties to settle matters between themselves; and if they cannot settle the matter, then, they can come back to court and reopen their case.
What we do, more often than not, is shift the blame to another, even when it is glaring that we are the ones that should be blamed. This habit portrays us as insecure persons. When you are insincere to yourself, you are already working against your progress in life.
Accept the blame if you know you acted wrongly. Don’t transfer the blame to another. Examine yourself to know if you are right or wrong. Self-examination is the path to reaping the benefit of the Golden Principle.
You are a victor!
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